Recent Letter to the ElderWisdomCircle™
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: He Left Me, But I Want Him Back Original Letter Me and my ex broke up a couple weeks ago and he went back to his kids mother. He said He missed his kids but He was seeing them everyday. He moved out while I was at work. He said he didn't have enough money to help me pay rent so he left. By him living with his baby mother, he doesn't have to do anything - she don't allow him to work or nothing so he's living rent free. I just wanna know how can I get him back ? Elder Response Just having your boyfriend walk out on you two weeks ago I’m guessing you’re very emotional right now. You may feel lonely without him in your life, but I want to suggest that you really ask yourself why you want him back. He left to be with his kids even though you said he saw them every day. But you also said that he doesn’t have to work living with his kid’s mom. What do you think is the reason he left you? Was he resisting helping share the responsibilities of your life together? He will always have a connection with this woman because they have children together. Is this something that you can handle, especially since he left you to be with her? Meme, I want you to think carefully about what you want. You deserve happiness and someone you can count on to be there for you. Successful relationships require that both partners communicate and care for the other. Did you feel disrespected when he moved out while you were at work? Maybe some time apart will give you the opportunity to see that you can be a strong woman on your own. Think about the qualities you want in that person with whom you will share your life. When you feel strong enough you may be surprised that you will meet someone who can look outside himself and care for you. Your needs are important. Please don’t dismiss that. I’m not sure how old you are, but I think as you grow older you will recognize the people who will bring joy to your life, and those that will only bring pain. Meme, take care of yourself. Take some time to process your pain and move forward. In the meantime, maybe you could find a friend to share your living expenses. You may find you aren’t as lonely as you thought you would be. Good luck and feel free to write back. Best Regards, Dot |
