Recent Letter to the ElderWisdomCircle™
DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Connecting with a Crush
Hello! So, I recently went to a church camp and met a girl. She's all that I've been able to think about and I recently saw her about two weeks ago. Now, keep in mind that we have never spoken to each other before. When I last saw her I'm not even sure that she saw me. She knows I exist and all that, but I doubt that she cares. Please help! It feels as if she's so close but out of reach.
I think the best thing for you to do, Athena, is to try to make contact with this girl. Do you have a mutual friend? If so, call/text that person and see if she would be willing to arrange a meeting. You can say you met her at camp and she appeared to be the kind of person you'd like to know better. Maybe your mutual friend can set up a meeting date (lunch or a movie that the three of you might enjoy doing together). That would be a good way to get to know her and vice versa.
If she is contacted and flatly refuses, you have lost nothing. There's an expression: Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I think you should venture out, find a way to contact/meet this girl and then see where that takes you. Be confident in yourself. Based on your letter, you sound like a fine person who many would be pleased to have a relationship with.
Don't be afraid to take the first step.
Best of luck to you Athena!