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DATING/RELATIONSHIP: Get Her to Fall In Love With Me Again
Letter #: 405122
Category: Dating/Relationship

Original Letter

I need your help for my relationship. I'm 15 and have had this girlfriend for 4 months. We both had a crush on each other for a year and then I asked her to be my girlfriend, she said yes. We haven't actually gone on a date or anything since then. Right now she takes forever to text me back and we are losing attraction for each other. She's also super pretty and could get any guy she wants but lucky has stayed with me. What should I do to get her to fall in love with me again? What should I say? THANKS!

Elder Response

Hey, Brad. Thanks for reaching out to us for some elder advice. I may be a lot older, but I can still remember this sense of unsureness when I was your age. Heck, sometimes I feel these kind of things in my 60s as well!

When it gets down to it, we all want someone special to like and have that person like us back. And yet, when things get busy or for whatever reason life happens, that other person may seem a million miles away from us. It is those times we may question: "Does that person even like me? Does that person even care?"

I am not making excuses for her when she takes forever to text you back. And I don't necessarily think going to a specific place and spending money constitutes what a date is. But if you and your girlfriend like each other, I do think you two need to let the other know. However, using the word love may be too strong a word in such a short time of being with each other. Then again, I am not here to deny how you are feeling. I guess I just wanted to throw that out there for something for you to think about.

If you want, why don't you give your girlfriend a call. Ask her out on a date. The date doesn't have to be anything big but it is a way for you to let her know you are still interested in her. If you both seem to be having fun on this date and connecting with each other, you can continue going in this direction as boyfriend and girlfriend. If not, then you can decide if you want to at least remain friends or disconnect completely. My advice is for you two to get to know each other better. And please know I personally don't think this is a time to question: "Well, should we have sex or shouldn't we have sex?" At your age, having sex can actually get in the way of really getting to know the other and yourself! You can go slow and have fun at the same time.

I hope my thoughts and advice help you with your decisions. May all go well.

Peace, Grandma-Lucy

Best Regards,



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