My girlfriend and I are nervous about our first kiss — it will be the first time for both of us. Any tips?

You can’t plan a kiss, says our elder. Let it come naturally.

Dear EWC

OK, so my girlfriend and I both have never been in a relationship before and we just got into our first one about a month ago. We are also nervous about giving/receiving our first kiss. We have talked about it before but don’t know how to execute this action. When would be the best time and how should this be done?

Nance replies

Well, I have no idea how old you are, but that really doesn’t matter that much when we are talking about a kiss. I think the best thing to do is not think about it and let it come naturally. I mean, when the time is right you will both know, and when it’s not right for one of you then it won’t happen until it is something you both feel like doing. You really can’t plan a kiss. If you do, it will be more like a mechanical thing than a feeling thing and it won’t be very enjoyable. Since you have only been seeing each other for a month, there is no rush. Just enjoy spending time with each other, getting to know each other, have fun and when it feels right it will happen. A first kiss is a very special moment and you want it to be something you both want to experience together, so relax and it will happen when you are both ready.

I hope that helps you a bit! Have a great summer!

Letter #: 441399
Category: Dating/Relationship