I came out on Instagram and my friend left a snarky comment. What should I do?

Well done for not letting his narrow-mindedness bother you, says our elder. Ignore him, and focus on the kind people around you instead.

Dear EWC

I’m 13 and live in the USA. Today I just came out about being bisexual on Instagram. I posted a picture reading, “Let’s get one thing straight. I’m not,” and captioned it, “So… I’m bi”. About a few hours after I made that post my old friend (now former friend) commented, “ew”. I didn’t know he was like that and I sorta pity him for thinking that way. What he said doesn’t bother me but I don’t know how to respond. Should I just ignore him or do I reply with a snappy comeback? Please give me advice on what I should do.

Shine-Bright replies

Coming out is not an easy thing to do and doing it so publicly is very brave. Kudos to you! I know that social media is a way of life but, personally I think personal announcements are best for people that you feel close to. Any declaration on any subject — being a vegan, losing a friend, leaving the country; will always have other people throwing out their opinion without regard to you. It’s more about them than it is about you !

So, look at this person’s comment as a signpost — they are exhibiting unkindness, narrow-mindedness and also immaturity! Bravo for you that you can see this and not let his small mindedness be your reflection. Best just to ignore him and keep the people who are kind and non-judgemental around you. Keep your attention on the good things and the bad things melt into the background. Know that your bravery with your announcement will be a signpost for other people to see your courage, conviction and acceptance of yourself.

Wishing you well.

Letter #: 446854
Category: Friendship