Now that they’re in quarantine, this would-be couple is finally starting to chat.

“Don’t push,” says our elder, who cautions against sharing too much, too soon.

Dear EWC:

Hello, to whomever this may reach. I met this guy sophomore year of high school, but due to my face turning bright red whenever near or in a group with him I never had the guts to talk with him, except obviously only on group assignments. I never thought I’d ever have the guts to talk to him. We’re both in our senior year of high school now.
But recently due to the coronavirus we have all been put in quarantine. Only about a few weeks ago, after 3 months of quarantine, I finally had the guts to send him a message. We’ve been pretty good in conversation and there are quite a lot of things we both can have good conversations about. I have had the thought in my head recently that I wanted to tell him how I feel but is it too soon for me to tell him?
Even though we’ve known each other and both wanted to talk to each other (he told me) since sophomore year, we’ve only talked for several weeks.

KayKay replies:

I’ve read that keeping people in the dark about how much we like them will increase how much they think about us and will pique their interest. Therefore, I recommend that you NOT tell him how you feel. Actions speak louder than words, so both of you are showing that you care by continuing to talk and share things. If you tell him how you feel, and he feels like he has to reciprocate, then you won’t know if he really means it or not. I suggest keeping the conversation going and see what happens.

Some guys are uncomfortable talking about emotions. So, declaring your feelings can have the opposite effect that you want. I agree it is definitely too soon, and even then, why not wait until he tells you voluntarily how he feels? That way you will know it’s sincere and not just an “I love you too.”
I hope things work out for both of you. Let nature take its course and don’t push. Good luck!

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