My boyfriend’s brother just scooped our wedding. Should we cancel?

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Dear EWC

My boyfriend and I were planning on getting married on my birthday, which is two weeks away. We had almost everything set with a plan we were just waiting for the day to arrive. Just yesterday his brother announced out of the blue that he was getting married a week before us, we didn’t tell him our plan until everything was set. Only our parents knew. Now I’m not sure of what we should do. I don’t want to make it seems like we’re getting married just because they are. I am so torn because I worked hard on planning this out and now I don’t know if we should go through with it. I really need some help with this.

Granny-Nora replies

If his brother loves you, he will want you to be happy. Explain that your plans have been all set, and you want to go through with them. Tell him you love him and are happy for him. Who knows? Maybe you could even make it a double wedding if both couples are agreeable? If not, you will all just have a very happy couple of weeks.

One caution: I don’t know who is paying for these weddings. If your parents are paying for the weddings, both couples need to understand and follow strict budgets, and be mindful that the wedding does not make the marriage. All the money in the world can be thrown into a ceremony, and it won’t mean a thing if everyone is in debt when the deed is done. Simple is often most beautiful, so be kind to whoever is paying the bill.

Letter #: 413779
Category: Marriage