I saved a photo of my children to my phone and now my fiancé won’t talk to me. Am I in the wrong?

Absolutely not, says our elder. Run for the hills.

Dear EWC

My fiancé is very upset with me to the point where he ignored me all evening and wanted nothing to do with me. Here is the reason why. I am separated and have two children aged 10 and 12 with another man from a previous relationship. Anyways my kids’ father took a photo of them at the barn with the farm animals. My daughter sent me the photo and I saved it to my phone because I liked the picture. I didn’t think anything of it and definitely didn’t think that this would be a big deal… My question is how do I deal with this situation? I honestly think that this is insane. He’s mad at me and sends me nasty messages about me saving the picture. Please help me with how to handle this. Am I in the wrong?

Terry-Anne replies

Thank you for writing to Elder Wisdom Circle for some advice. 

I am going to be very honest with you regarding this situation. I am not trying to be mean or unkind. My honest advice is to break up with this man. He is acting extremely immature. When it comes to your children, they come first in your attention and affection. He is only a boyfriend at this time. I would think very carefully before considering him as a possible husband. In fact, my best advice to you is to see a counselor for some premarital counseling if you decide to continue the relationship. 

When a man is as jealous of a woman’s children, as he is, it’s puts them in a very dangerous position. To be clear they could be subjected to possible abuse. A background check would also be a good idea. Remember, no matter how great you think he is, he has already shown you his bad side. Since he is angry over a little thing like a photo of your kids, then consider how angry he will be over big things. 

I hope my advice is helpful and that you will contact Elder Wisdom Circle again if you need us. We are always here. 

Letter #: 421135
Category: Dating/Relationship