My boyfriend accused me of being fake and now he’s ghosted me. I didn’t do anything wrong!

It sounds like he did you a favor, says our elder. You deserve better.

Dear EWC

I dating a guy for five months in a long-distance relationship. Recently, he broke up with me. We talked about it maturely for a while until he started accusing me of ‘ghosting him’ and being ‘fake’ as in lying about everything. He claimed he ‘knew me’, but I defended myself. We got into a conversation about who we really were, and he revealed stuff that I hadn’t known before (his exes and stuff he’s done). One of the things he said was, “The least we can be are friends”. I was OK with that. But here is when things got out of hand. He blocked me through everything, kicked me out of a group with my friends. I didn’t understand what was happening and obviously I got upset. From one of the accounts, he didn’t block me from I simply asked what I did wrong… to which he replied, “Everything” and just blocked me out of the blue. If he were to unblock me and ask again, obviously my answer would be no. I just don’t know how to react or move on… It was just so heartbreaking, it’s not like I cheated on him or anything.

Good-Listener replies

I know it’s hard to deal with this guy blocking you, but I think he’s done you a favor… a huge favor. I’m not always blunt, but he seems like a nut job to me. He appears to be unstable, rude, nasty and not the kind of person I’d want to be in any relationship with, of any kind. I would chalk it up to experience and move on. Please don’t blame yourself for any of this — he’s not someone who behaves with any dignity.

Look for guys (or people in general) to hang or communicate with those who have some stability. True, often you don’t know until they do something dumb like this guy… And, if they do, know you’re lucky you found out sooner rather than later. I wouldn’t have anything to do with him because you deserve better. You don’t know what this guy is really like or who he really is, other than a jerk, at best. You wouldn’t treat anyone the way he has treated you, so be conscious of that and see how fortunate you are not to have to deal with his childish pranks anymore. Again, you are worthy of being treated with dignity and respect… and don’t have to take his garbage. Good luck.

Letter #: 446073
Category: Dating/Relationship