Recent Letter to the ElderWisdomCircle™
FRIENDSHIP: Friend is Now Dating MY Crush Original Letter Hiya, My friend, Jade, knew i had a crush on a boy, Harvey, but she didnt tell me she had a crush on him too. The other day, i recently found that theyre dating, only since the day i found out! I cant forget about him, or them. Please help me! Elder Response I know that feeling betrayed hurts, Evie. And it's hard to watch your friend date a guy you like. Still, I think the wisest thing you can do is let it go. Feelings of jealousy and anger only hurt you and won't make anything better for either one of you. I'm guessing that you've been friends for a long time. I don't know what she was thinking but I doubt that she intended any malice. She is most likely guilty of "being weak of the flesh" and not guilty of malice, and of not thinking yes. I think there's a good chance she'll change boyfriends or he'll change girlfriends; probably before you get an answer to this letter. I wish you well, Evie. You had a crush but weren't dating him. I hope you don't give some guy the power to hurt your friendship with your friend. We all need friends; I hope you have the strength to overlook her indiscretion and just move on. You'll probably have your chance with him anyway. Friends are valuable, I want you to think about that and forget any bad thoughts about her. Best Regards, Papa-Dude |
