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FRIENDSHIP: Feeling Excluded By Friends
Letter #: 396078
Category: Friendship

Original Letter

Lately, I've been feeling really isolated by two of my best friends in my class. It's really hard, since there are three of us, so when it comes to partners, they always look at each other and I'm stuck alone. Also, they always talk about their inside jokes around me, and I awkwardly sit there because I don't know what they're talking about. I know they aren't trying to do this on purpose, because they really do care about me, but sometimes it feels really weird around them. What should I do? I don't want to talk to them because I feel like they would just get mad at me if I say that.

Elder Response

This is a difficult situation, Jessica. Although your friends care for you and want to include you, they are truly (I think) best friends.  I don't think they mean to exclude you, but that is what is happening.

My suggestion is to branch out and strive to make more friends. Sometimes, when two girls are very close, it makes it difficult for other friends.  You should still stay in contact with them, but open up to other relationships. I really don't think there is anything you can say to them that will change things.

I know this can be a very stressful time in your life. Try new activities, explore new interests, and be open to getting to know new people. 

I wish you the best.

Best Regards,



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